Response:

Sometimes when we work on healing old emotional trauma to stop the pattern of attracting negative situations, we have actually completed the deep healing, but the momentum of the old pattern can still persist for a little while. It’s like an old car engine that sputters and coughs after it is turned off, or a bike that coasts along after you have stopped pedaling. I think this is what is going on in your case. It can feel confusing and even upsetting when old annoying issues keep resurfacing even after you have dealt with the underlying problem. The important point to keep in mind in this situation is to patient, kind and non-judgmental with yourself. If you let yourself become reactive to the pattern with anger or despair, you can reinvigorate the pattern with your energy. The best approach is to notice what is going on with a sense of benign non-attachment. The old pattern will wind down and fade away on its own if you leave it alone and let it. If you don’t feel like you are quite able to muster the required detachment, see if you can at least develop a sense of humor about the absurdity of the situation. Being able to laugh at yourself and the crazy ways of life is one of the most effective ways of disengaging from your old self.

Love,

Deepak